My Changemaker Labels

A. NLP: Auditory

Sensory-based Language:

Words: sound, tell, speak, say, talk, hear, loud, tone

Phrases: Rings a bell for me. Loud and clear. On the same wave length. Sounds good. Do you hear that?

Information Processing:

May perceive things quicker over the telephone—listens carefully to how something sounds in effort to recall an inner record of similar delivery.

Speech Pattern: Speaks clearly and distinctly—likes to sound good.

Eye Movement:

Right-handed people: for remembered sounds, the eyes move across to the left.

For sounds we are trying to imagine, the eyes move to the right.

Left-handed people: for remembered sounds, the eyes move to the right.

For sounds we are trying to imagine, the eyes move to the left.

B. Birth Order-First Born

Description of first born: Tend to be studious, serious, and well-organized. They also tend to have his profile professions.

Strengths of being first-born: Conscientious—reliable—accepts responsibility easily—organizer—tends to become oriented to needs or feelings of other people around them

Weaknesses of being first-born: Stubborn—perfectionistic-driven—moody—skeptical—tense—tends to look for flaws—critical

To overcome limitations, use the following suggestions to make affirmations: To make affirmations powerful: state them in the present tense only, be positive, be specific, begin with “I”, state the affirmation as if it were already accomplished to avoid wishful thinking, and keep them free from condemnation or criticism.

For example, say “I am free of fear.” Not ”I’d like to be free of fear.” If you have a belief in God or a Higher Power, use that belief in your affirmations.

Avoid focusing on one narrow solution. Instead open yourself up to the solution for the greatest good of all concerned.

C. Family Roles:

In our family of origin, we each chose roles as our way to belong in the family. Possibly we were indirectly “assigned” these roles. However, we settled on two of the roles. One is our “doing” role (how we appear to others) and the other is our “being” role (the role we choose to solve our emotional problems through). The roles are family hero, scapegoat, lost child, and mascot.

Doing role-Family Hero

Positive characteristics of the family hero:

Responsible—dependable—hard worker—achiever—successful—focused—generous in praising others—leader—survivor—loyal—powerful–organized

Negative characteristics of family hero:

Inflexible—fears intimacy—driven—unable to play—has unreasonable expectations—fears failure—experiences guilt easily—has trouble getting personal needs met

Inner feelings of family hero:

Works hard for approval—super responsible—successful—appears to be all-together—believes themselves to be special

Major hidden feelings of family hero:

Inadequacy because nothing is ever good enough

Gift to the family:

Pride from the achievements of the family hero

To outgrow need for family hero role, he/she needs to learn:

They are responsible for getting their own needs met and are not responsible for everyone around them. They need to learn to play and not take themselves and others so seriously. They need to give up compulsion to be perfect and to give up the need to be boss in order to win approval from authority figures.

Techniques others may use to help the family hero to give up using this role exclusively:

Allow the family hero to know it is all right to make mistakes.

Help the family hero to feel validated by his-her own person rather than by achievements.

Give the family hero attention and approval at times other than when he/she is achieving.

Being Role: Scapegoat:

Positive characteristics of the scapegoat:

Has many friends—good group leader and/or counselor—courage to reveal reality—sensitive to others’ feelings—handles stress well—commands attention

Negative characteristics of scapegoat:

Hostile—defiant—angry—rule-breaker—may be in trouble—may have legal trouble—irresponsible—manipulative

Inner feelings of scapegoat:

Loneliness—fear—anger—hurt—rejection

Major hidden feelings of scapegoat:Rejection so rejects others first

Gift to the family:

Rebels to take focus away from other family members—provides distraction

To outgrow need scapegoat role, he/she needs to learn:

To learn conflict resolution rather than dealing with the difficulty by rebelling

To be assertive and tell others of his/her true feelings

To learn to identify the hurt under the anger and to recognize when they use anger to cover hurt

Techniques others may use to help scapegoat to give up using this role exclusively:

Don’t get caught up in the scapegoat’s cover of “anger” and allow the scapegoat to avoid feeling their hurt

To learn to negotiate rather then rebel

To help scapegoat to understand he/she has control over feelings of anger

D: How We Use Our Energy

The two main ways I use energy are: logic and creative

Logic energy:

Description of logic energy:

Set goals

Organize

Have a plan of action

Analyze

Stressors of logic energy:

Lack of direction in meetings

Lack of focus

Lack of organization

Snap decisions

Too much logic energy; may not listen to others enough

The opposite energy that will need to be developed is:

Relationship energy

To develop relationship energy, practice doing these:

1. Learn active learning from PET books by Thomas Gordon

2. Spend time getting in touch with your inner child for more sensitivity

3. Spend time alone with another person reflecting back what the other person is saying(reflexive learning)

Creative energy:

Description of creative energy:

Detects possibilities for problem-solving easily

Stressors of creative energy:

1. Negative people

2. Meetings that produce no results

3. Rigidity

4. Lack of courage in making decisions

Too much creative energy; may be too impractical

The opposite energy that will need to be developed is:

Grounding energy

To develop grounding energy, practice doing these:

1. On regular basis, take walks concentrating on one of the five senses, such as listening, and then the next day, focus on another sense, such as smelling.

2. Do one thing at a time

3. Get out of your head

4. Celebrate your accomplishments frequently

5. Use autosuggestions; such as, I feel great!

6. Explore the world

7. Develop sensory skills

Although the Changemaker Test is not a substitute for the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® instrument, it will give an idea of what your personality preferences may be. It is recommended that you take the MBTI® assessment amd receive feedback in order to properly determine your type preferences.

Based on your answers of 19-21-22-24; your personality is INTJ.

I-Introvert

N-Intuitive

T-Thinking

J-Judgment

The best website for information on the MBTI is www.capt.org. The following description for this type is posted on the CAPT site and is used by permission. It was written by Charles Martin, Ph.D.

“For INTJs the dominant force in their lives is their attention to the inner world of possibilities, symbols, abstractions, images, and thoughts. Insight in conjunction with logical analysis is the essence of their approach to the world; they think systemically. Ideas are the substance of life for INTJs and they have a driving need to understand, to know, and to demonstrate competence in their areas of interest. INTJs inherently trust their insights, and with their task-orientation will work intensely to make their visions into realities.”

If you would like to take the MBTI® instrument online, go to the CAPT site and click on “Take the MBTI Assessment.” The process and fees are explained there. The direct link is http://www.capt.org/take-mbti-assessment/mbti.htm.

Enneagram

Type Five: The Observerbelieves you must protect yourself from a world that demands too much and gives too little to assure life. Consequently, Observers seek self-sufficiency and are non-demanding, analytic/thoughtful and unobtrusive, but also can be withholding, detached and overly private.

Excerpt used with permission from our favorite Enneagram site, Enneagram Worldwide [link to

http://www.enneagramworldwide.com/.

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I introduce the above information to make it clear that each of my blogs is an entity unto itself. It is a shame that those of us who desire to help our readers by offering simplicity with one main topic blogs have to be aware that blog spamming is hard to detect by bots–software not by humans.

I have believed for ten years that Internet search will be done by humans and not by bots. I haven’t used Google for specific searches for over two years. Blogs have helped to locate specific information but are such a vast number that finding them takes a concentrated search each day. RSS has helped to keep track of the blogs we want to follow.

With introduction of all the social media tools available, the search for the information we want is widespread and becoming overwhelming.

So I decided to put my key topics in my six blogs and to become a blog link cataloger. If you are interested in any of the above keywords plus social media, marketing, and online communities, I will be posting key articles by topic for each of the above six blogs.

I believe I have laid the foundation for my being an “expert” in the above keyword areas. Now I am going to use my love of research and organization to bring you up-to-date links for all the keywords above.

So I reinvent myself again–to blog link cataloger. When do I get a pay increase?

When I got up and walked outside, everything was different—trees, cars, the street—I saw everything with new eyes. It took me much searching to find out what had happened to me. In a book by William James entitled The Varieties of Religious Experience (1902), I found that I had had a radical conversion.

Did I answer a calling? I don’t know what happened to me except I knew that God had given me that compassion and love that I felt that day. I know that someone with an experience is never at the mercy of someone with an argument.

From that day until today, I have tried to accept the guidance that God gives me and it has been the most amazing journey. I don’t believe that God does more for me now than He did before that day. The difference is that I now can see the daily miracles. “Once I was blind and now I see.”

These labels from the Changemaker Test are mine (Kathy Berman). In other posts, I  write a complete explanation for each of my labels. These explanations are taken directly from the Changemaker Test Package to demonstrate the complexity of the label explanations.

A. NLP (neurolinguistic programming)–I am auditory. Only 10% of people tested are auditory. We are the ones who are always making you wait for certain words in a song. When I used to be dating, my poor friends had to hear the whole conversation of my current guy and me–”I said and then he said”–blah, blah, blah.

B. Birth order–First born. The first born believe that we were born to straighten everyone else out. So we do ruffle a few feathers. We are well-organized and reliable, but tend to be moody and perfectionistic.

C. My 2 family roles are: (1) the doing role (what I appear to be to the rest of the world)–family hero. Family heros are hard workers, successful, leaders but feel inadequate because nothing is ever good enough.

My second role–( 2) the being role (the role I choose when I am in trouble emotionally–scapegoat. Scapegoats are rebels who have a hard time learning conflict resolution. We tend to pin any trouble on someone else.

D. The two energies I use the most are: creative and logic.Logic people are organized, set goals and have a plan of action. Creative people are flexible in problem-solving and use a lot of imagination.

E. MBTI (Myers Briggs Type Indicator). I am INTP. I am an introvert–intuitive–thinking–perceiving person. The main focus in my life is understanding and learning. “INTPs are logical, analytical and detached in their approach to life” according to Charles Martin at CAPT.  Whole books have been written about each of these 16 types so more information is very available.