by Randy Son of Robert

Everyone has many personality labels yet most of us resist being labeled. Over a lifetime, we each will have hundreds of labels because we have unique life experiences. The main way that we learn our labels is from others. We generally resist these suggestions as it feels that the labels have a negative connotation. Yet most of our labels are positive and negative at the same time.

We each love to learn about ourselves. But we pretend that we don’t want to know. It is the same maneuver we use to view a group picture that includes us. While oohing and aahing over all the other group members, we are secretly gazing at ourselves.

Most of the labels used by counselors are unknown by clients. The Changemaker Test, which is meant as a vehicle for self-discovery, includes the labels used in NLP (neurolinguistic programming), birth order, family roles, emotional energies, and MBTI (Myers Briggs Type Indicator). Also included are the labels for the Big Five Test, enneagram, and transactional analysis.

Changemaker is committed to the basic belief that each person has the opportunity for self-discovery and the potential for self-healing. As individuals, we sometimes choose paths that may be harmful to us. To get off that path and onto a new road takes exploration and experimentation.

The Changemaker Test offers education for self-discovery as Changemaker believes that the change within a person involves the courage to see (insight) and the courage to act (action).

The Changemaker Test will teach anyone 10 labels about themselves. Therefore, by using the labels to change themselves, the changemaker is the person who decides to learn and make the change happen.

Does a personality label mean that a person will always act according to that personality trait? No! A label is only a personality indicator. For the Changemaker Test, in choosing your labels, go with your first choice. Don’t try to figure out the “best” answer. There aren’t any best answers. As we stated before, each label has positive and negative aspects.

On the road of self-discovery, remember to look for guidance among persons that are on their individual path of growth. If someone wants to tell you who to be, that person is not growing but is trying to avoid growth by “changing” you. Some people call this codependency.

Yet we all are probably codependent at one time or another. It happens sometimes that another person gets more of our attention that we are giving to ourselves. But the codependent uses concern to gain power over others in the classic position of “top-dog”. Shared power is the only ingredient in relationships that determines how healthy the union is.

Reciprocity shows respect and dignity in relationships. Emily Dickinson wrote in one of her poems—“the soul selects her own society-then shuts the door”. The power in a relationship is divided or debated from that first glance. The people that we meet and with whom we instantly feel comfortable are those with whom we share the power.

Unfortunately what many call “excitement” is the game of control. The Course in Miracles suggests that our main feelings are love and fear. If we aren’t offering love, we are trapped in our fear.

When You Find the Buddha in the Middle of the Road-Kill Him is the wise title of a good book by Sidney Kopp. No one knows what is better for anyone but that person.

We each have our own answers. Even those trained in counseling techniques can only see what is revealed. Tendencies may be seen and certainly personality indicators will be there. But the work of change is a person’s individual choice.

The test for evaluating our motives when we want to deceive ourselves about our “loving” motives is that when we come in the spirit of love, there will be no resistance. If tension exists in an exchange, there is a power struggle.

The resistance proves that we are coming in a spirit of fear. If we are in a tug of war with someone, we can let go of our end of the rope. With the freed energy from letting go, we can then join the “enemy” to find a solution to the problem.

At the heart of a loving home is peace. Peace comes from “losing” battles and winning the war. “O Lord, let there be peace and let it start with me.”

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Everyone has many personality labels yet most of us resist being labeled. Over a lifetime, we each will have hundreds of labels because we each have unique life experiences. The main way we learn our labels is from others. We generally resist these learnings as it feels that the labels have a negative connotation. Yet most of our labels are positive and negative at the same time.

We each love to learn about ourselves. But we pretend that we don’t want to know. It is the same maneuver we use to view a group picture that includes us. While oohing and aahing over all the other group members, we are secretly gazing at ourselves.

Personality labels are personality indicators. Labels can be positive and negative at the same time. By learning our personality traits, we can determine the positives about ourselves to enrich our self-image. Understanding ourselves and what motivates each of us can be a powerful tool towards meeting life’s challenges and personal dreams.

By learning our personality traits, we can determine the positives about ourselves and change the negative thoughts to positive ones. The Changemaker Test is meant to be the starting point for self-discovery. With the complete test, answers and explanations, anyone can test their friends and family.

Also anyone who has compassion for others can use these materials to begin discussion groups of persons interested in self-discovery. Anyone can start a free group online at Squidoo after s/he publishes a lens about anything.

The Changemaker Test includes:

• The test of 25 personality traits include the categories of NLP (neurolinguistic programming), birth order, family roles, emotional energy, and MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator)

• From the 25 traits, each person will learn 10 of his/her personality traits

• Each of the 25 traits is explained in an individual description

• Included is the Big Five Test and enneagram information

• A bibliography for all the personality traits has been added and links for each of the personality labels is added

The Changemaker Test is free at this site.

A. Neurolinguistic programming (choose one):

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2.

3.

B. Birth order (choose one):

4.

5.

6.

7.

8.

9.

C. Family roles (choose two):

10.

11.

12.

13.

D. Energies (choose two):

14.

15.

16.

17.

E. Myers-Briggs Personality Profile (choose one from each pair to have four numbers):

18. OR 19.

20. OR 21.

22. OR 23.

24. OR 25.

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Recall a recent party/event/vacation that you attended. As you recall the event, which of the following descriptive words do you primarily use in describing the event: (Choose ONE)

SEEING WORDS–Big picture—view—see—clear to me—looks like

HEARING WORDS–Sounds good—listen—do you hear that—it is so loud

FEELING WORDS–Feels right—rubs me the wrong way—how do you feel

B. Indicate your birth order in your family of origin:

(Choose ONE)

First born

Second born

Third born

Fourth born or more

Last born

Only born

C. Family Roles:

In our family of origin, we each played two

roles: a “doing” role (how we appear to

others) and our “being” role (the role we

choose when we are emotionally upset).

Choose TWO roles that describe you:

Label one “doing” and the other “being”

10. High achiever—does what is right—successful

11. Defiant—rebel—“black sheep”—lots of friends

12. Withdrawn—quiet—super-independent—

13. Hyperactive—“clown”—super cute—

humorous—charmer

D. Emotional Energies:

We each have four basic strategies for using our energy. We use all four of them once in awhile, but there are TWO dominant energies that we use to solve problems. Choose the TWO energies that you use most frequently.

14. Analyze—organize—has plan of action—sets

goals

15. Evaluates decisions by the reactions of

others

16. Believes in solutions—helps others to reach

decisions

17. Flexible in decision-making—playful with

solutions—imaginative

E. Myers-Briggs Personality Profile:

This last section is harder to do in that you

must choose one answer from each group so that you will end up with four answers for the whole section.

For example, your answer might be 17-19-21-23 or 17-20-22-23—whatever answers you choose will be four numbers (one number from each of the following four groups).

Basic outlook on life? (Choose ONE):

18. Interested in outer world of actions and persons

19. Interested in inner world of concepts and ideas

What do you most pay attention to? (Choose ONE)

20. Taking information in through five senses

21. Taking information in by “sensing” what is going on

How do you decide? (Choose ONE)

22. By organizing information in a logical way

23. By organizing information in a more personal way

What life style have you adopted? (Choose ONE)

24. Lives in a decisive way to control events

25. Lives in flexible way to adapt to life

My Changemaker Labels

A. NLP: Auditory

Sensory-based Language:

Words: sound, tell, speak, say, talk, hear, loud, tone

Phrases: Rings a bell for me. Loud and clear. On the same wave length. Sounds good. Do you hear that?

Information Processing:

May perceive things quicker over the telephone—listens carefully to how something sounds in effort to recall an inner record of similar delivery.

Speech Pattern: Speaks clearly and distinctly—likes to sound good.

Eye Movement:

Right-handed people: for remembered sounds, the eyes move across to the left.

For sounds we are trying to imagine, the eyes move to the right.

Left-handed people: for remembered sounds, the eyes move to the right.

For sounds we are trying to imagine, the eyes move to the left.

B. Birth Order-First Born

Description of first born: Tend to be studious, serious, and well-organized. They also tend to have his profile professions.

Strengths of being first-born: Conscientious—reliable—accepts responsibility easily—organizer—tends to become oriented to needs or feelings of other people around them

Weaknesses of being first-born: Stubborn—perfectionistic-driven—moody—skeptical—tense—tends to look for flaws—critical

To overcome limitations, use the following suggestions to make affirmations: To make affirmations powerful: state them in the present tense only, be positive, be specific, begin with “I”, state the affirmation as if it were already accomplished to avoid wishful thinking, and keep them free from condemnation or criticism.

For example, say “I am free of fear.” Not ”I’d like to be free of fear.” If you have a belief in God or a Higher Power, use that belief in your affirmations.

Avoid focusing on one narrow solution. Instead open yourself up to the solution for the greatest good of all concerned.

C. Family Roles:

In our family of origin, we each chose roles as our way to belong in the family. Possibly we were indirectly “assigned” these roles. However, we settled on two of the roles. One is our “doing” role (how we appear to others) and the other is our “being” role (the role we choose to solve our emotional problems through). The roles are family hero, scapegoat, lost child, and mascot.

Doing role-Family Hero

Positive characteristics of the family hero:

Responsible—dependable—hard worker—achiever—successful—focused—generous in praising others—leader—survivor—loyal—powerful–organized

Negative characteristics of family hero:

Inflexible—fears intimacy—driven—unable to play—has unreasonable expectations—fears failure—experiences guilt easily—has trouble getting personal needs met

Inner feelings of family hero:

Works hard for approval—super responsible—successful—appears to be all-together—believes themselves to be special

Major hidden feelings of family hero:

Inadequacy because nothing is ever good enough

Gift to the family:

Pride from the achievements of the family hero

To outgrow need for family hero role, he/she needs to learn:

They are responsible for getting their own needs met and are not responsible for everyone around them. They need to learn to play and not take themselves and others so seriously. They need to give up compulsion to be perfect and to give up the need to be boss in order to win approval from authority figures.

Techniques others may use to help the family hero to give up using this role exclusively:

Allow the family hero to know it is all right to make mistakes.

Help the family hero to feel validated by his-her own person rather than by achievements.

Give the family hero attention and approval at times other than when he/she is achieving.

Being Role: Scapegoat:

Positive characteristics of the scapegoat:

Has many friends—good group leader and/or counselor—courage to reveal reality—sensitive to others’ feelings—handles stress well—commands attention

Negative characteristics of scapegoat:

Hostile—defiant—angry—rule-breaker—may be in trouble—may have legal trouble—irresponsible—manipulative

Inner feelings of scapegoat:

Loneliness—fear—anger—hurt—rejection

Major hidden feelings of scapegoat:Rejection so rejects others first

Gift to the family:

Rebels to take focus away from other family members—provides distraction

To outgrow need scapegoat role, he/she needs to learn:

To learn conflict resolution rather than dealing with the difficulty by rebelling

To be assertive and tell others of his/her true feelings

To learn to identify the hurt under the anger and to recognize when they use anger to cover hurt

Techniques others may use to help scapegoat to give up using this role exclusively:

Don’t get caught up in the scapegoat’s cover of “anger” and allow the scapegoat to avoid feeling their hurt

To learn to negotiate rather then rebel

To help scapegoat to understand he/she has control over feelings of anger

D: How We Use Our Energy

The two main ways I use energy are: logic and creative

Logic energy:

Description of logic energy:

Set goals

Organize

Have a plan of action

Analyze

Stressors of logic energy:

Lack of direction in meetings

Lack of focus

Lack of organization

Snap decisions

Too much logic energy; may not listen to others enough

The opposite energy that will need to be developed is:

Relationship energy

To develop relationship energy, practice doing these:

1. Learn active learning from PET books by Thomas Gordon

2. Spend time getting in touch with your inner child for more sensitivity

3. Spend time alone with another person reflecting back what the other person is saying(reflexive learning)

Creative energy:

Description of creative energy:

Detects possibilities for problem-solving easily

Stressors of creative energy:

1. Negative people

2. Meetings that produce no results

3. Rigidity

4. Lack of courage in making decisions

Too much creative energy; may be too impractical

The opposite energy that will need to be developed is:

Grounding energy

To develop grounding energy, practice doing these:

1. On regular basis, take walks concentrating on one of the five senses, such as listening, and then the next day, focus on another sense, such as smelling.

2. Do one thing at a time

3. Get out of your head

4. Celebrate your accomplishments frequently

5. Use autosuggestions; such as, I feel great!

6. Explore the world

7. Develop sensory skills

Although the Changemaker Test is not a substitute for the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® instrument, it will give an idea of what your personality preferences may be. It is recommended that you take the MBTI® assessment amd receive feedback in order to properly determine your type preferences.

Based on your answers of 19-21-22-24; your personality is INTJ.

I-Introvert

N-Intuitive

T-Thinking

J-Judgment

The best website for information on the MBTI is www.capt.org. The following description for this type is posted on the CAPT site and is used by permission. It was written by Charles Martin, Ph.D.

“For INTJs the dominant force in their lives is their attention to the inner world of possibilities, symbols, abstractions, images, and thoughts. Insight in conjunction with logical analysis is the essence of their approach to the world; they think systemically. Ideas are the substance of life for INTJs and they have a driving need to understand, to know, and to demonstrate competence in their areas of interest. INTJs inherently trust their insights, and with their task-orientation will work intensely to make their visions into realities.”

If you would like to take the MBTI® instrument online, go to the CAPT site and click on “Take the MBTI Assessment.” The process and fees are explained there. The direct link is http://www.capt.org/take-mbti-assessment/mbti.htm.

Enneagram

Type Five: The Observerbelieves you must protect yourself from a world that demands too much and gives too little to assure life. Consequently, Observers seek self-sufficiency and are non-demanding, analytic/thoughtful and unobtrusive, but also can be withholding, detached and overly private.

Excerpt used with permission from our favorite Enneagram site, Enneagram Worldwide [link to

http://www.enneagramworldwide.com/.

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Bandler, Richard. Using Your Brain for a Change:Neuro-linguistic Programming. Moab, Utah: Real People Press, 1985. Mr. Bandler is one of the pioneers in this field.

Connor, Joseph and John Seymour. Introducing Neuro-linguistic Programming :The New Psychology of Personal Excellence. London, England: Summit Books, 1990. Much easier reading than the earlier books in this field.

Robbins, Anthony. Awaken the Spirit Within. New York: Summit Books, 1991. Mr. Robbins has used the principles of neurolinguistic programming in a easy to follow format.

Birth Order:

Leman, Kevin. Were You Born for Each Other? New York: Delacorte Press, 1991.

Family roles

LeSourd, Nancy. No Longer the Hero:The Personal Pilgrimage of an Adult Child. Nashville: Thomas Nelson Publishers, 1991.

Wegscheider-Cruse, Sharon. Choice-Making. Pompano Beach, FL: Health Communications, 1985.

Wegscheider-Cruse, Sharon. The Family Trap. Rapid City, SD: Nurturing Networks, 1976. I believe that Mrs. Cruse was the originator of the 4 family roles.

Myers-Briggs:

Kerisey, David. Portraits of Temperment. Del Mar, CA: Gnosology Books, LTD., 1987.

Kroeger, Otto with Janet Thursen. Type Talk at Work: How the 16 Personality Types Determine Our Success on the Job. New York: Delacorte Press, 1992.

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